Just like this is a huge change for both of you too! And ofcourse I would want them a good new home. Dear, reading your post made me so sad. Love your pets, but everyone has a rank in the pecking order. Giving priority to the dog over the husband. I felt rushed to eat my dinner. She spends no time outside so she sheds everywhere! She immediately gets up and goes towards my husband. Big dogs are messy and hairy and require even more care and exercise, but there are good dog hair vacuums and grooming helps a lot too. Trust me. smh! I am experiencing all of a sudden this painful feeling of being back-stabbed. Enough to break the marriage? Please be careful. Weve even tried fixing it but he chews through everything we try to fix it with. I told her how her mom said before they got their dog that he was left alone in their house, and her response was, yeah, and who knows how long he was howling for! She makes no effort to break this habit either, which pisses me off. It just makes me sick. I dont even understand why she wants to keep it, she forgets to feed/water it at times. My partner is always defensive over any suggestions about the dog which makes me really upset and pissed off. And he hated even finding hair outside Like ever, even be on the bed and they didnt spend hard hours in school for nothing. Most importantly, you need to control yourself while talking without starting a quarrel. When I am at his house the dog cant let us cuddle in front of TV before interacting with aggressiveness act , he is either wants to sit in the same sofa and not a separate sofa. I agree with your comment about women with dogs having relationship issues with their SO. Cant imagine having a baby with anyone else. Our cat is still yowling at me because of what the dog did. Hes quit jobs because he couldnt have the dog with him. I have started hating that cat, have become extremely resentful and am considering divorce though that would be the last resort. If Your Boyfriend Doesn't Like Your Dog (Or Vice Versa! Shes been poorly trained however and isnt at all obedient. Even after a grooming she still emits a doggy aroma. Happy wife, happy lifecmon he loves that dog. Privacy Policy. We had moved in together knowing he couldnt have his dog, he said he was okay with that. the ex trains him and ex tells me to leave. I have tried to tell my boyfriend how upset I feel that he doesnt respect how I feel, but he just said that I need to stop causing problems. Its recommended not to let him walk off-leash and roam. As far as dogs go, this one is a sweetie. I have been married for over a year and living with my hubby for over 3 years. Like children, her Facebook feed is full of dog posts and her friends include a long list of other dog fanatics, each egging one another on to largely imaginary dangers and an ever-expanding requirement of expensive things dogs need. One time I walked into the LR I found the dog laying with her back against the sofa and watched him laying facing her and placing her legs on his side. I just dont know what to do. Heartbroken. My boyfriend and I recently (within the past 3 years) bought a home and our first Dog (a rescue) shortly after, my mother fell in love with her, she got one of her own. Hate the smell of dog full stop. I feel the same as many other people that no matter what, I feel my house is dirty. One time I sat down and my pajama bottoms were wet. And then they make lame excuses when it hurts someone or negatively impacts a relationship. I hate them. She doesnt have time to train even after we each went to classes on how to train it. I already have a 11month old shepard mix male. Its all about compromising and some women cant get everything they want just like men. Am i in the wrong? Our otherwise is great! its her baby and thats how theyve always been. THIS IS ALL SOO WRONG. I understand. Make sure you use a metal gate. Before your dog starts to regress and starts pooping and peeing in the house. If your husband/boyfriend needs to get rid of the dog, the main reason could be puppy blues. She likes to tell people that the dog lives better than she does. It just feels that my feelings are brushed off the table and the dogs are priority number 1, while Im his wife. BTW I dont see them as Pets more like my children considering I had miscarriages and stuff and they keep me happy. Its not that I dont like animals, but I have no desire of them to be in my house and definitely not in my bed. So to get to my story, I moved in with my Gf about 4 years ago. He repeatedly says how much he doesnt like him and talks about how its gross when he gets on the furniture. The comprehend tone of voice and can learn tricks, but that is far from having a legit conversation with a person. At home training, if that doesnt work the next step professional training. ! If I say something to him about how he is acting Im the enemy. I have never been a pet owner or pet lover as far as pets living with me is concerned but he has been a good dog for them for many years. Again the constant peeing and pooping comes from lack of obedience training, anxiety, fear etc. So you manage to get your partner to separate themselves from their dogs or perhaps even give them up? The hair is floating everywhere and sticking to everything. Oh, bringing the dog down to relieve itself is a pain as well. She insisted that they loved her. For the most part, my partner is a wonderful and loving person. after a completely unprovoked barking and near biting episode her human said she just loves me and wants to make sure she protects me. this is what dogs do they bark and protect you. Friendships may be a different story in some special circumstances, but it should be a no-brainer when you love someone. Ive been understanding of this bc his mother had just passed. We moved into a house at the beginning of last year and he brought his old dog with him. Once I trained him after s few months, fast forward to 5 years. A disagreement about pets doesnt have to spell the end of your relationship, but it may require that each of you make some accommodations. All I want and preach to other people is compromise and Im still somewhere trying to find that. Its so embarrassing to know these things. I want the dog trained to be all right to be outside for longer periods of time in anticipation of trying to manage twins as they develop and also need floor space. Thats dangerous. In Mistys case it is pretty obvious that the man has a codependent relationship with his dog; he has made it clear to her that the animal is his priority and he is unwilling to change for the sake of developing a relationship with her. I murdered her last dog the one she had when we met with murder being defined as telling her its time to put it down because it suffered advanced dementia. Help. Now that Im almost 7 months pregnant I just get irritated with her. You and them, plus the animals. It just is what it is. I suffer from asthma (maybe cats.. idk yet) and it can be life threatening yet these animal lovers feel the pets come before human family. My wife has a bed for him set up in the shower because since he suffers from extreme anxiety, she said that is his safe place. I have made a arrangement with my wife NO pets in the bed.after one week she decide to bring the dog back in the bed. He paid for her happily, he bought tonnes of new things happily, he paid for her spayed happily, he made her a beautiful wood bed, with memory foam mattress, happily. Learning stages for a puppy are very difficult and tiring on them, too. I was loving. its annoying. He cant even use the bathroom w out her whining to come in. Ive always had animals growing up, all indoor BC we couldnt bear to see harm come to any of them. I never thought a pet could cause a breakup but this thing is about to. The shelter lied to us about her age, they said she was 4 ( which is still a trainable age,) well it turned out she is more like 6. I was angry the vet didnt do a better job alleviating her post op pain. He compliments the dog and acts like its his actual girlfriend. When they have the world revolving around a dog, eventually they put you to the back of the line! So I guess you believe that marriage was also developed by the patriarchy to get people to submit then too? I tell the dog no, but she just looks at me with clueless look and then runs crazy laps around the apartment. It is downright disgusting. The older one is blind so when they go outside I have to watch him carefully to ensure he comes back in the house. But Im not. Both of you need to get a hold of yourselves and purchase of beds for the good of the dogs and your relationship. I know this. He got housebroken and crate trained very quickly, and we taught him quite a few commands. See none of these behaviors are normal. Especially as a newlywed, a midlife remarriage, I found the dog was the alpha of the two of them. If this is the case, that can be the reason why your husband/boyfriend needs to rehome the dog. On top of that you have sent the message that a dog, an animal, is more important than him, which is selfish and inconsiderate. I dont know how you handled living for that long in the same house as that dog. But at the end of the day they are JUST animals!!! I have two daughters, 13 & 11. I tell my mother to stay married to this man means I will never have another pet, which I greatly dislike that thought, but I know my spouse will turn it into a human rather than respecting the species for what God has created. Thanks. It wasnt a matter of loving an animal, it was that he made me feel he was in love with the dog and it broke my heart over and over again. I must also add that over the past 6 months I have grown very much attached to his cat. the puppy sleeps with us and the ex get jeleous when puppy puts his head on me. The dog relented at first and then allowed him and I watched him plant his lips firmly on the side of her muzzle. Thats borderline mental. He rarely listens to my fianc. I am so happy I left. Also, on the rare occasion he stays at my place, he has to leave really early in the morning to go home and take the dog out (i live in SF and we both have apartments with no yard). So recently I had a baby girl, and my husband has a 2 year old pit-bull. My boyfriend was drunk and as he got out the car he started throwing up. Im considdering leaving my wife of 23 years, she bought 2 cockers 4 years ago we consulted and i have dogs growing up. I didn't think much of who cared for biscuit at the time simply because it wasn't none of my business. When he got his pup thats where mostly all his focus went. I do love my SO but I am finding myself dreading being at home and missing my old life with my dog free apartment. It is unfair to make demands like this of someone else. I told him that Ive compromised but I cant change my dogs behavior overnight. If you Love your dog like I think you do. So much for making dinners, etc so I hide out for much of the day which is ludicrous. They need guidance. He barks a lot, steals my toddlers food, gets into the garbage, growls at night at every sound, jumps on people, sheds constantly, growls at you and nips if you try to punish him, and hes just a bad dog. Its been 6 weeks now, and I still sob. Ill help brushing her as needed. With the dog hair it needs to be vacuumed every day, but I dont get to vacuuming daily. I called her out on this and she got extremely defensive and proceeded to tell me how crazy I am. I hope she gets cancer like her mother did and dies early. Are you serious right now? Of course, an animal cannot hurt you emotionally. His dogs are so spoiled, I feel like they come first. Now she barely does that without forcing her to or saying it 15+ times. What a waste of my precious time over a bloody brainless mutt that would go with anyone that fed its face and let it be incontinent in public places. (even when walked), one of the dogs constantly tries to steal food from the table and the kitchen counters, goes into my purse, into the trash can in the bathroom, drinks out of the toilet. The mistake that people make is treating animals like a child. 7. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. She was too in love with her dogs to have a human relationship. In your own situation, step back and ask yourself why you are still living with him? Take care. Long story short, it was an extremely stressful weekend, having to watch the little dog around my girlfriends dog 24/7, leash inside the house, etc. I figure, once he manages to force me to let the dogs die of broken hearts, neglected and alone out in the backyard, then hell then start on his cats liking me more than him, so I dont love him, etc. These dogs have done $8,000 to my brand new home and this has destroyed what should have been a great time in our lives and a time of healing. This is not a new situation but was the same as when we met. Believe me, I did cave on things with my recent ex and that just caused resentment and it will cause it with you. 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